Stand By Me

Hello Readers...

This week we are back with a column about standing by your loved one.

Is it wrong to drag a relationship onwards when you know it won't work? Things your spouse does consciously and subconsciously are physically and emotionally draining you. You stood by them through thick and thin. Problems seem to keep arising in your spouse's life. Yet you vow to stand by them to show your support, because you value their friendship.

You stand by them because you know they will crumble to the ground without you. So you stayed. 

You know their bad habits won't change. But every millionth time you mention it, they either get offended or they say they will change. Am I wrong to keep hoping for a brighter tomorrow? Or is it just naive to let it slowly eat me away on the inside. The anger bottles up within, fool me once, fool me twice... but fool me for the thousandth time. There's something seriously wrong with this picture.

Have you ever checked your compatibility through horoscopes? tarot cards? psychic? Here were the results I found. Often when a relationship begins to fail, we turn to find hope. I used my own horoscope as an example below.

Tarot Card Reading by Tarot.com

I am the Emperor and my spouse is the the Magician.

It says it takes a real effort for this partnership to resemble a lasting romance. As we both carry a different skill set. The Magician has a naturally forceful and flamboyant leadership style will grate on the nerves of the methodical Emperor. 

While the Emperor likes to see things done in a step by step way, while the Magician impulsively jumps head first into new endeavors. The Emperor's strong suit, loyalty, runs counter to the Magician's penchant for fickleness. 

In love, the major friction occurs when the Emperor does a million small things around the house to please the Magician, who barely notices these gestures. The Magician, conversely, is so independent and busy with personal agendas and goals that the Emperor can feel like an employee and even worse, a slave in service.

On the upside, both share a keen intellectual approach in life and joint problem solving is a task they can enjoy together. If the relationship is built around work or family finance building, then there is a chance of endurance. But without a mutual project or goal, both partners often end up feeling neglected and unappreciated by the other.

Horoscope Compatibility by Astrology.com

Scorpio - Water

Taurus - Earth

Earth + Water = Mud

Many Taureans have been madly attracted to their opposite sign, Scorpio. The powerful drive and magnetic appeal of the Mars and Pluto-driven Scorpio is irresistible for you. Opposites do attract.

Your first meeting with a Scorpio will be overwhelming. You’ll probably be bewildered by the waves of passion you feel when you’re around them, even if you don’t know them yet. Scorpio will feel the same way about you; there’s an undeniable connection between Mars and Venus.

Scorpio is a fixed water (ice) sign. The action of water on earth in this case will not be entirely fluid. The cold inflexibility of Scorpio will conflict with your earthy stick-to-your-guns approach. You will agree on some things, but endlessly debate others, and you’ll go head to head quite often. If your partnership is to work long term, both of you will need to learn to accept the other’s viewpoint, even when you disagree with it.

Scorpio needs to express love through sex, and though this may flatter you at first, you’ll soon need something more affectionate and sensitive. If it’s not there, you may not be able to stay in the relationship — it’s too intense. You are ‘touchy-feely’ too, but you don’t want just sex!

The pluses here are that Scorpio will help you explore the part of you where love and sensuality can reach their peak, and you can help Scorpio get in touch with their softer side and learn to let go.

Oddly, this combination will bring challenges in the area of money and its control. Though you’ll nurture and love each other, these issues will become a major testing ground for you both. You will both need to make an effort here. Most Scorpios will fare well with you, Taurus, but those born between 24 October and 2 November are ideal. They will, on the whole, be compatible emotionally, mentally and sexually. You can make long-term plans and commitments with them.

Hope you enjoyed my column this week.

Vivian
Lulumelon Chronicles

Air Dry Clay DIY

Have you seen this stuff before? It is awesome. It's great for people that are fidgety and ones whom have a creative mind. Turn your thoughts into reality, build it with air dry clay.

Handmade Sushi toys, hand painted The possibilities are endless. You can make home decor and even toys for a dollhouse. 

Princess Figurine, hand painted

This clay comes in different colours and brands. If you buy them in different colours you can actually eliminate the hand painting. Available at most craft stores and Play-doh aisles.

Happy Crafting :)

DIY: Spruce Up your Shoes

What you will need:

A pair of ballerina shoes 
Fabric paint
Paint brushes
Hot glue gun
Ribbon
Vintage buttons
Masking tape

Mask off the area in which you want to paint. Paint 1 coat and let dry for 15-20 minutes. Paint another coat and let dry for 24 hours for proper curing. Remove masking tape to reveal your design.

Using ribbon you can create a floral shoe adornment. Glue a button in the middle of this ribbon flower. Then attach this flower to your shoe via hot glue gun. Press firmly and hold for 2 minutes until the hot glue has cooled. You can make all sorts of designs with ribbon and buttons, the options are endless. Just use your creativity to create a design.

Fog

As if a blanket of candy floss surrounded us as we ventured through the cold, dark and blurry morning.

The air is crisp with a sweet scent of the meadows. Peaceful and weightless as the mist floats over the fields of hay.

Addiction

Ignored and unloved.
Upon the deepest love,
Feeling lonesome in this place called a nest.
To be one,
We must be connected.
Words become scarce,
Neglected.

Indulging on decadence in silence,
Passing time alone,
But yet there he is.
Staring upon his cold shoulder,
Memories of his silhouette,
Is what I remember.

Dozing off into the late night hours,
Only to find him up and about.
Waking up to laughter and shouting,
The stumbling sounds of disruption,
Disrespectful and insensibility.
Awaken by noise,
Anger lives within me now. 

Is this a dream I live upon?
Is this reality or is this a game?

Autumn Growing Up

Growing up I always admired the colorful trees along the cityscape of the highway. The damp crisp air of the wee hours in the morning. The crunchy frosted lawn. Jack Frost visits us every night. The smell of the morning fresh air is refreshing.

Christmas carols are playing at every shopping centre. Everything smells like cinnamon pine cones. There's nothing but hot apple cider on my mind.

After a long walk in the park, I liked curling up next to the crackling fire. As I sipped hot cocoa and awaited a delicious home cooked meal. I doze off to the warmth of the fireplace and the familiar sounds of my mother cooking.

Love

Loving someone is loving them as a whole. There are things you love about them. And things that you are not fond of. We try to embrace every aspect of them. You learn to love them.

But what if your loved one is doing something to harm themselves? What would you do at that point? Do you intervene? What is your intervention?

Communicate and put a voice to your thoughts. If they don't want to listen or ignore your love and your opinion. Or they may thank you and make a change in their lifestyle. Sometimes they may keep their promise and change their habits. But is this just a temporary or permanent change?

You may often hear people say that their spouses bring out the better in them. But what if something worse is brought out? What do you do then?