Stand By Me

Hello Readers...

This week we are back with a column about standing by your loved one.

Is it wrong to drag a relationship onwards when you know it won't work? Things your spouse does consciously and subconsciously are physically and emotionally draining you. You stood by them through thick and thin. Problems seem to keep arising in your spouse's life. Yet you vow to stand by them to show your support, because you value their friendship.

You stand by them because you know they will crumble to the ground without you. So you stayed. 

You know their bad habits won't change. But every millionth time you mention it, they either get offended or they say they will change. Am I wrong to keep hoping for a brighter tomorrow? Or is it just naive to let it slowly eat me away on the inside. The anger bottles up within, fool me once, fool me twice... but fool me for the thousandth time. There's something seriously wrong with this picture.

Have you ever checked your compatibility through horoscopes? tarot cards? psychic? Here were the results I found. Often when a relationship begins to fail, we turn to find hope. I used my own horoscope as an example below.

Tarot Card Reading by Tarot.com

I am the Emperor and my spouse is the the Magician.

It says it takes a real effort for this partnership to resemble a lasting romance. As we both carry a different skill set. The Magician has a naturally forceful and flamboyant leadership style will grate on the nerves of the methodical Emperor. 

While the Emperor likes to see things done in a step by step way, while the Magician impulsively jumps head first into new endeavors. The Emperor's strong suit, loyalty, runs counter to the Magician's penchant for fickleness. 

In love, the major friction occurs when the Emperor does a million small things around the house to please the Magician, who barely notices these gestures. The Magician, conversely, is so independent and busy with personal agendas and goals that the Emperor can feel like an employee and even worse, a slave in service.

On the upside, both share a keen intellectual approach in life and joint problem solving is a task they can enjoy together. If the relationship is built around work or family finance building, then there is a chance of endurance. But without a mutual project or goal, both partners often end up feeling neglected and unappreciated by the other.

Horoscope Compatibility by Astrology.com

Scorpio - Water

Taurus - Earth

Earth + Water = Mud

Many Taureans have been madly attracted to their opposite sign, Scorpio. The powerful drive and magnetic appeal of the Mars and Pluto-driven Scorpio is irresistible for you. Opposites do attract.

Your first meeting with a Scorpio will be overwhelming. You’ll probably be bewildered by the waves of passion you feel when you’re around them, even if you don’t know them yet. Scorpio will feel the same way about you; there’s an undeniable connection between Mars and Venus.

Scorpio is a fixed water (ice) sign. The action of water on earth in this case will not be entirely fluid. The cold inflexibility of Scorpio will conflict with your earthy stick-to-your-guns approach. You will agree on some things, but endlessly debate others, and you’ll go head to head quite often. If your partnership is to work long term, both of you will need to learn to accept the other’s viewpoint, even when you disagree with it.

Scorpio needs to express love through sex, and though this may flatter you at first, you’ll soon need something more affectionate and sensitive. If it’s not there, you may not be able to stay in the relationship — it’s too intense. You are ‘touchy-feely’ too, but you don’t want just sex!

The pluses here are that Scorpio will help you explore the part of you where love and sensuality can reach their peak, and you can help Scorpio get in touch with their softer side and learn to let go.

Oddly, this combination will bring challenges in the area of money and its control. Though you’ll nurture and love each other, these issues will become a major testing ground for you both. You will both need to make an effort here. Most Scorpios will fare well with you, Taurus, but those born between 24 October and 2 November are ideal. They will, on the whole, be compatible emotionally, mentally and sexually. You can make long-term plans and commitments with them.

Hope you enjoyed my column this week.

Vivian
Lulumelon Chronicles

People that Make you or Break you

Have you ever thought about how your significant other, friends, family and people around you affect you as a person?

I mean not everyone is perfect for each other and not everyone gets along either. Have you ever had someone in your life that makes you laugh when you're sad and gives you a hug when you need some encouragement? Someone who lends you a shoulder to cry on or someone that helps you get back up on your feet when you have hit rock bottom. Keep them close by as they are hard to come by. These are your true friends.

You may think that to be a silly thought but there are many wolves dressed in sheep's clothing nowadays. For instance you had someone be nice to you and invite you to a party only so that you can get them a great deal at the venue. Then treat you inhumanly, be rude and tell you to go home if you don't like it. That's a 'woof' alright.

A true friend doesn't talk behind your back. Someone that loves you doesn't tell you who to be friends with. A grateful person will know how to say 'please & thank you.' A true friend doesn't treat your relationship as a game and they surely don't keep score. A truly genuine friend will learn to say 'Sorry,' when they know that they have wronged you.

There are second chances in life & relationships. But when you pour your heart out and all you get in return is greed and selfishness. How many times will you fall into this trap from the wolves? Fool me 3 times, Strike and you're out of my life.